Mediation

Instead of focusing on whose story of the situation is most accurate, we will shift our focus to finding a way forward that works for everyone.

I'm committing to making sure that everyone's feelings and needs regarding the situation are being attended to. This includes people who are directly impacted by the situation that we're addressing as well as myself. When we recognize that each of us needs care, we can soften into a way of being that cares for all of us. This helps us find our way out of the most difficult situation.

As we practice together, we might identify opportunities to learn and practice new skills to improve our connection. Apart from the various skills available in the resources section of this website, I will often offer tools that you can use on your own, outside of the mediation. Most of my clients find these skills helpful in all kinds of relationships, not just the one they're in mediation to care for.

Depending on the context, we might want to deepen our relationship (e.g. with a family member, spouse, or partner) or we might want to set some new boundaries and create a better distance (e.g. a neighbor that has become too intrusive). Whatever the situation, I will work with you to name and create the depth of connection that will work for both of you. This may mean your relationship becomes deeply intimate and loving in a way you would have never imagined. This may mean that you realize this relationship is not working for you and that you would like a lot more distance. Whatever is best, you will be supported and held as you do the work to find your way.